How did something like this happen to me....

Here’s what typically happens: At first, they’ll seem to adore everything about you, showering you with affection and mirroring your emotions. You’ll feel a deep, soulful connection. It’s intoxicating—like you’ve met someone who truly sees you. They’ll call you their soulmate, the one, or the best thing that ever happened to them. But then, seemingly out of nowhere, they’ll explode over something trivial. Something so small it will leave you shocked, confused, and wondering: What just happened? Because of the bond you share, you’ll want to fix it. You’ll try to talk things out, resolve the issue, and get back to a good place. But here’s the truth: They’re not interested in understanding or resolving anything. They want control.

If they’re jealous, you’ll start making small changes—adjusting what you wear, who you talk to, or even how you handle business relationships—to keep the peace. But over time, these small adjustments will become bigger. You’ll start cutting off meaningful relationships, second-guessing your choices, and isolating yourself. Why? Because their insecurity, jealousy, and need for control demand it. They may even give you the silent treatment as a subtle form of manipulation, but it’s still about control. The outbursts will continue, initially appearing every couple of weeks. They’ll apologize and return to the person you fell in love with for a few good days, making you believe they’re capable of change. But the time between those apologies will get shorter—and eventually, it will stop altogether.

What’s left? Bad moods, tantrums, insults, silent treatment, gaslighting, and even disappearing for hours or days, leaving you with deep wounds of rejection. And here’s the hardest truth: You’ll never see the person you originally fell in love with again—unless they want something from you. If your partner rages or gets angry over every little thing, this is a huge red flag. 🚩 People who behave like this are experts at breaking you down, making you question your own reality, and stripping away your independence. They want control because that’s how small and powerless they feel inside. Don’t ignore this. Don’t try to explain it away. You deserve better. This behavior will escalate to physical abuse—emotional and verbal manipulation come first, followed by cheating, lying, and more.

Don’t wait for someone to change if they don’t see any problem with their behavior, cycles, or toxic traits. This is who they truly are, and this is their character. Find support from friends, family, and resources, but get out. Narcissists have no shame, remorse, or care for your well-being—only their own. They will destroy you. Seek healing through Jesus Christ and know that you are worthy in His eyes. 💜