Sunday, May 25, 2025

I'm not perfect, but I'm present.


A narcissist doesn’t break your heart in the way people imagine. It’s not always loud or obvious. They don’t shatter you with one devastating blow—instead, they chip away at you piece by piece. They dismantle your confidence, erode your spirit, and distort your sense of reality. They don’t just inflict pain—they convince you that you deserved it.

Narcissists are master manipulators. They begin with lovebombing—an overwhelming flood of affection, attention, and praise designed to disarm you. You feel seen, cherished, even special. But just as quickly, they pull it all away. The warmth vanishes. You're left scrambling, questioning what went wrong. Wondering what you did to cause the shift. Trying harder, giving more—unaware that this was the trap all along. They want you hooked on their approval, desperate for their validation. They want you to chase the very person who is quietly destroying you.

They gaslight you until you doubt your own mind. They rewrite the past, twist your words, and make you question your emotions. Every confrontation ends with you apologizing for your pain, while they calmly play the victim. You bleed—and somehow, you're the one saying sorry. And the cruelest part? They do it all with a smile, with a calculated calmness that makes you look unstable.

Because the truth is, a narcissist doesn’t want love. They want control. They don’t nurture, they deplete. They don’t build with you—they tear you down to feel taller. It doesn’t matter how much you give; they never came to receive. They came to take, to consume, to devour every soft part of you.

So if you’ve managed to walk away from someone like that, don’t regret the time you lost. Don’t carry shame for how long you stayed. Carry pride—for the courage it took to leave. For choosing healing over chaos. For remembering who you were before someone tried to rewrite your story to fit their narrative.

That isn’t weakness.
That’s survival.
That’s power.

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